The process of separation and divorce is a difficult one, no matter how unhappy you might be or how bad your relationship is. It’s important to realise the fact that mediation is an important step in divorce, and that it can help sort out many practical issues such as where your children will live, how often you will see them and who will take responsibility for financial obligations. Here are a few tips as to how to get the most out of your family mediation, and what to do if there are any questions about the process.
Be sure to listen. It’s the only sure-fire way of getting what you want out of a situation – argue your point with reason and listen, care and consider the alternative viewpoint. You’re likely to enable a greater degree of flexibility and allow others to see your point of view, also.
Also understand what acceptable demands are, and don’t go into mediation sessions with unreasonable requests. Be diplomatic, and understand if people don’t always take your viewpoint. The mediator’s job is to make sure there is common ground – so use their knowledge, understanding and impartiality.
As much as you shouldn't be demanding in your requests, you should also make sure that you have a definitive idea of what you want to get out of your mediation sessions. Are you worried about custody battles? Finances…the role of your child’s grandparents? Make sure you are thorough with your arguments – remember to keep lists and cover all topics if given the opportunity.
One of the most important things to remember is that mediation is collaborative, not adversarial. It’s about finding a solution that all parties in a relationship can live with. If that takes time, so be it, but it is vital that you find methods of making the most out of your sessions. It’s a chance to put things right, understand the reasons things went wrong and look to find an amiacable solution for all involved.
Burt Brill and Cardens Solicitors offer family mediation and are a specialist divorce solicitor in Brighton. Contact them today for more information and to discuss the ways in which they may be able to help you.